How to break or form a habit

From almost everyone's experience, habits are habits. They are so hard to form later on break. If you are the kind of person that opts to use positive thinking or affirmations or your entire willpower, a habit wont form or just go away just like that. I have done that and failed myself and i know that i have a strong will-power. More often you will find yourself dropping back slowly by slowly.

Lets say for example, you like talking a lot. Believe me some people are really talkative to the extent that they will talk and talk and talk, and just talk and talk some more. If you ask them about, say, the current job of an ex-boyfriend, they will talk and probably tell you where the guy is, who he is dating, the schools he went to, the bad things he did, the kind of loser he is, and so on and so on... Talkers seem to just talk and talk and have all the crap to tell you (If you have never landed on one, pray you don't). Well, how do you break out of a habit like that? If you depend on your will power, you will probably succeed in the first few attempts. But trust me, this wont last for long.

Someone will ask you about your friend's family background and well, you might find yourself drifting to the relatives as well and probably your will-power will remind you to stop. This may happen for some time and you actually succeed though it wont last. So what's the real way to break a habit like that?

30 day breaking!
Its been preached widely mostly by inspirational speakers or motivators, and is a proven method for forming or breaking a habit (good or bad). Take 30 days to monitor yourself. If it's talking too much, pinch yourself before you start. Say a few words to satisfy someone's inquiry and do not assume that they expect more. If they do, let them ask more, if they don't ask, don't offer. If it is eating too many times a day that cause you to be fat, then don't store food or search for it during the day. Replace it with water or just some yogurt. If you want to get athletic, make sure you do some jogging, some gym and whatever else you want to do to achieve. Do it for 30 days constant. Constant means contact by the way, not most of the times or some...

If you want to start meditation, set time apart and do it constantly. If you are fat and want to reduce weight, draw a plan and follow through for 30 days. Some say 21 days will do just fine but don't do 21 days. Do 30 days straight...

More often than not, it is sometimes irritating having to follow through to form or break a certain habit. The reminder of committing to something every single day constantly is boring to most people and they just give up. However, keep in mind what you want to break or form and whether it is important to you or not. Don't just waste time by trying out something even when you don't want to follow through. Most things in life take discipline, and you might want to take sometime off to think about discipline and take another step of self mastery and growth. That's what makes the difference between winners and losers, the wealthy and the poor, the weak and the strong...

In a period of one year, you can sit down and decide certain things you want to change about you for the better. It might be being more caring about your workmates, or improving the quality of your job, or learning to read inspiration or important books, or shading off that fat, or keeping in touch with your family, or cutting on drinking alcohol, or swimming, or singing, or dancing, or writing a book, or making friends or just starting a relationship for the better intentions. Whatever it is, you can make it! Yes you can!!! The longest journeys begin with just one step. You don't have to do it all in one go and no one expects you to anyway. It's your life. If you take time to notice our mother nature, you will find all the beauty in patience and discipline, borrow a leaf.

For now, go start something that will propel you to greater heights. If you are confused about what to form or break, begin with this simple act of forming a habit. Take sometime off before you sleep. Turn off the music, the TV, the phone and have some quiet moment by yourself. Like in 30 minutes or so, breathe in deeply several times and relax. Just relax and be calm. Take your mind off everything and say something like: "I am grateful to be alive! I am peace, i am love, i am joy. The world is on my side every single moment and i shall not despair. Amen." You can then allow your muscles to relax one by one until you completely feel calm and peaceful. Those are simple words and actions but they carry a sense of oneness and peace.

And for now, i am always wishing you the very best that life has to offer. Let it be according to your desires to form or break the habits in your life...