Okay, I am a fan of the Pavlina’s, and the reason is not different from what any fan may expect. The Pavlina’s especially Steve has driven the self conscious growth development in many individuals of whom I am among the most grateful.
I read a lot of Steve’s blogs from his website, StevePavlina.com, and I like his topics, his original ideas, his authentic thoughts, the audio (especially those great mp3s). These are tools that have guided many of us to self realization and a rather stupendous evolution of personal growth and development. Meanwhile I have not been to most of Steve’s Conscious Growth Workshops (CGW) for reasons of distance. I lie in the heart of Africa without much luxury for flights and so forth. But the internet keeps me connected to the blogs and facebook rather instantly just like the rest of you. But I hope to be there in person one day. Now, let me talk about the divorce.
As you might suspect, I am not an attacker of the divorce. I am voicing an inner thought that may kindle disparate patterns of thought in different people. First of all, when I first listened to Steve’s thoughts on religion, I didn’t want to finish the recording and I didn’t. You may call it a self-fulfilling prophecy for now. But that's not the point. Religion is a definitive subject sensitive to most human kind who believe that there is a greater, indescribable part of their life that depends on, for example the hope of life after death, inner peace and comfort, spiritual guidance (in general spirituality) and many other things I can't delve into right now. And you may ask, ‘what are you talking about? what does this have to do with divorce? Or family? Or what are you driving to? Or are you another creature searching for identity?
Well, that brings me to this. Is it okay to have a divorce (on friendly acceptable terms!). I have asked myself the question after reading and re-reading the post. I am an ardent Christian and my belief system - which by the way i prefer not to have it fall among the flexible belief systems - guides me to believe that marriage is a lifetime institution. Divorce is not okay except for failure of marital duties! That's scriptural and godly. But i still ask.
Is it okay for me to wake up one day and table the situation to my grand partner that we should call it quits and see where it goes? Okay let me change the perspective as Steve has taught me to look at problems from multiple perspectives. How does a muslin look at divorce? Oh, i cant tell. How does God look at a Divorce stemming from two people consenting to call it quits. I presuppose 'no way'. But i don't want to be judgmental here. How do Steve's parents look at his marriage's conscious actions? 'May be not yet understanding what it actually is'.
I am still imagining, looking through the mirror, wanting to consent, wanting to stand in front of Erin Pavlina, and just keep quiet. Look at her, greet her may be, and ask her about the power of a woman. And say something like, 'i thought the completeness was found in the man of your life? Is it also in your independence?' May be go a little bit further and ask more about whether her psychic abilities accept the concentration of losing a husband based on a mutual understanding! And for Steve, my friend, if I were to meet you, i would love to ask you about the little silence that fills your big house. The roaming whispers of invisible Erin opening the kitchen door! Never mind, i cant tell how it feels. But God gave us imaginations, and that's how we silently enter into worlds not our own, then get away without being noticed.
Steve and Erin Pavlina, we still love you. Steve prefers that we don't take sides and that's why I am patting on both shoulders asking, how does it feel? Can you do me a favor and join the big house. It still has the invisible charms of 15 years. You shouldn't let that go away. You should never have agreed to start the discussion. Happiness and individual goals cannot be the cause. They should not send the kids to their mum alone. The kids love to see you hugging and talking and loving in a home. It makes sense to them. Do it for you. Do it for the kids. Run, and join in the big house Erin. That's where the warmth is. Please do it because we are all behind you.
